With the current climate and challenges that this year has bought, many people and businesses are searching for effective tools to help them manage, adapt, grow, be profitable, successful and happier and in the process get ahead of the competition as they climb out of this year. They get coached, have a business consultant come in to their business to improve performance and culture, or develop and skill up and ready themselves for the future. They start something meaningful……..
When it comes to leadership and business, a study of over 200 of the top CEO’s was performed and it found that EQ was twice as important as IQ and technical ability in driving performance. It accounted for a 90% difference between the best and the rest. [https://youtu.be/WICq_Pj8ZUk] Its not the smartest people who are the most successful or fulfilled in life. IQ will help get entry to law school/professions, clerkships and professional jobs. IQ and technical ability won’t help manage stress, build high functioning teams, lead others effectively, live all areas of life to its full potential, be resilient, amplify performance including courage, influence, energy, clarity or confidence.
Others are overwhelmed with what has occurred this year and want to hide, baton down the hatches, lets not change anything, keep going the same way we always have and lets wait and see what the future holds. As a result, there isn’t a future opportunity to rise, improve, grow and be at full potential. Nothing changes….results stay the same or worse!
I am continuing to inform you now about high performance and EQ competencies, because of the crisis at this time, so this crisis doesn’t create more crises for people and businesses. High Performance and EQ are scientifically backed, Harvard supported – they are proven to work.
EQ, which is a part of a high performance habits and skills will provide stability, security, positive mindset, success for now and the future, personal and business, and more. Lets define EQ briefly
- Self Awareness:This is the first step, being aware of your own feelings & emotions, in the moment, and why you feel that way and can name the feeling and articulate why you are feeling it. Recognise the effect/connection from your emotions to what you are thinking, doing and saying and how your body is reacting (headaches, back pain, neck and shoulder pain, heart racing, tight throat, sweaty palms, anxiety attacks, clenched jaw etc), and using that information to improve your performance, from reactionary [frustration, flipped lid, anger etc] to responsive [calm, thoughtful, logical decision making] It improves the situation and people around you. You have self confidence as you are more mindful in the moment (good for stress reduction).
- Self Management: Keeping disruptive emotions and behaviour and impulses under control. Those with this competency choose to restrain their negative reactions. They influence what is happening beneath the surface in order to think clearly, stay focused, stay composed and positive, they remain cool under pressure and respond positively to different situations. They manage their emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments and adapt to change. They are intentional about how they respond to challenges and interact with others during the day. Tip: When you become overly stressed, do you lose control of your emotions, find it difficult to think clearly and make rational decisions. Being aware of emotions can help to stay emotionally present, without letting emotions overrun thoughts and behaviours. Plan your day, your intentions and interactions so you show up as your best self, take control of your negative self talk, learn something from everyone you encounter, smile and laugh more. Nothing is life or death, unless you work in medicine!
3. Social Awareness: Sensing others feelings and perspectives, through non verbal and verbal cues, and taking an active interest in their concerns. Reading a rooms emotional current, being able to size up a situation and plan an appropriate response. Being service oriented, wanting to serve others with excellence. This affects everything from relationships to the bottom line. Tip: Greet people by name and remember their name (influential)and a part of client centricity, be present in the moment with people, have optimal listening and communication skills, observe people and their body language, empathise (doesn’t mean agree, means to understand others perspectives). If you hear others say things that cause a reaction in you, that informs you about you (why is that so?).
4. Social Skills – Relationship Management (Core Leadership): This requires good communication skills with interpersonal effectiveness and powerful influencing skills, conflict management skills, being an inspirational leader, causing and accelerating change, building teamwork and collaboration, coaching and mentoring others and building trust (ethical). Tip: Use humour or play to reduce stress, be aware of your own non verbal cues, resolve conflict in healthy, constructive, kind, honest ways (communication) that encourages creativity, direct communication that is candid and free (human vulnerabilities) in an environment of psychological safety – this can strengthen trust, its the basis of all highly functioning teams.
IQ is not enough to be truly successful and happy in life. EQ [high performance habits and skills] are the success makers for all of life arenas.
Louise is a holistic barrister, mediator and FDRP who helps families in conflict resolve their conflict more easily, as a mediator who utilises Harvard Negotiation, Leadership and How to Handle Difficult Conversation skills (attended Harvard) plus coaching and FDRP skills.
She is also a certified High Performance & EQ Coach and Consultant and helps individuals and businesses reach their full potential, professionally and personally.
Contact Louise if you would like to discuss how she can assist you as a mediator, coach or consultant.
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