When was the last time you spoke to your 6 year old asking them to brush their teeth before bed, go back to bed, hurry up and get ready for school, without success? Think about a time you spoke with your spouse/partner/friend/family and you wanted them to agree with you on a topic, without success? Think about the last time you attended a mediation, when you spoke (or observed others speak) at the opening, when the other side was informed of the strength of your case, their case was diminished [and they need a better handle on the law]. You may have been surprised they didn't 'come to their senses'. :-) Getting others to agree with you , having satisfying relationships, asking others to comply when we ask for help or when trying to alter others behaviour or thinking, sell our services or ideas or be an effective leader.... ALL require high levels of influence. Many people think influence involves force . It is, however, a skill, it takes time, effort and intention to … [Read more...]
NEW BEGINNINGS…!
Firstly, I want to say thank you and honour those of you who have remained with me, accepting my blogs/ vlogs into your inboxes when I know you already have to manage 100's of emails every day and this is another one! I know it takes time to read or listen to my blogs/vlogs, and not everyone values the importance of personal development or practicing with human skills and legality (differently), the subject of my blogs/vlogs, showing how human skills will improve lives and practices. I applaud you! Many are afraid of change and as a result they don't live their lives with courage, or they would like to be more influential and don't know how, as a result they don't live life to its full potential, never really growing and learning and developing new skills and habits! Thank you for being open to learn and grow! My aim has always been to make a difference in law, and to lawyers. Money has never been my motivation. I have always been non conformist and in law, I am no … [Read more...]
The First Key To Reach Your Next Level of Freedom and Confidence….. Is THIS!
You may be be living in heightened fear and as a result living small, yet you have big dreams and visions that you would like to achieve in your life, you want more happiness, success, courage, influence, productivity, skills, habits... .....etc... Are you honouring your big vision and moving to the next level or allowing external factors, challenges, circumstances hold you back and keep you stuck in mediocrity? Watch the video for full training for the first key to take you to your next level of freedom and confidence. 1. Louise is a leading mediator - conflict resolution expert, having attended Harvard Law School Negotiation, Leadership and How to Handle Difficult Conversation course. If you would like Louise to mediate one of your family law matters, with legality and humanity , please contact her 2. Louise is a certified high performance and EQ coach and consultant. Why not apply for your 1 hour free strategy session, to see if its the right fit for you to help you … [Read more...]
I’m Smart….. Do I Need More Influence To Be More Successful?
It's been said the 5 keys to success are determination, passion, skill, discipline and good fortune. Definitely necessary, however, is that all you need to be successful ? An effective leader will use strategic influence designed to change another person or teams attitudes, beliefs or actions, to inspire them to do better. A mother or father will want effective influencing skills when interacting with their 4 year old. Their strategic influence will be different when trying to influence their teenager. Conflict resolution, whether at mediation or advocating in court, requires high influencing skills, its based on people skills and strategy. Every day, we are influencing family, friends, colleagues, clients, counterparts anyone who crosses our path. Louise provides some thought provoking ideas and questions to help you to think differently about influence! Watch the the video for full training. 1. If you would like to engage Louise as a mediator (family law), who has … [Read more...]
If You Adopt This, Your Life Will Change!
During these challenging times, do you have goals that require you to change something? Do you want to change career, get a new job, do you want to make personal changes or do you want to practice differently (legality and humanity), a new area, do you want to speak up when others are silent, do you have ideas to do things differently but don't share them? There are a myriad of goals you may have, however, all goals require change AND courage? Does fear hold you back when it comes to change? Or are you too busy in your own furrow, doing the same thing you have for the last 5,10,20 years and don't believe this is a time for any kind of change? Louise provides 4 strategies that will create change, when your courage is tested, you may be criticised and you may fail (temporarily). Keep going, chart your own path, go from strength to strength and build the life you want, serving others with excellence. You can succeed courageously, making changes, living the life you choose, even in … [Read more...]
How To Unlock YOUR Success
COVID 19 hit and continues to impact many people and businesses, with new outbreaks, causing anxiety and uncertainty. Its hard for many to think about moving forward successfully, with firms concerned about their future profitability and people worried about job security. Lawyers and firms may have been pushed off their usual course in the 'new' difficult circumstances. How do you approach "new"? You need to be applauded for your flexibility and adaptability during these times of change. How is the 'new' impacting on you reaching your goals? What will help you unlock your success (whatever that means to you) and your business' success to get you back on the road to success, driving / working towards your goals (clear goals are necessary) particularly in challenging circumstances. Louise provides strategies for you to unlock your success, so you reach YOUR goals, with daily momentum, when challenges are high. Louise is a holistic barrister, an advanced trained mediator, … [Read more...]
Lawyers Are Taught To Dehumanise! Lets Be Exemplary Human Role Models
Summary: Summary: Lawyers are taught to dehumanise from law school, where emotions and human skills are devalued and dismissed, thought of as unnecessary in practice and technicality seen as the only skill required for greatness (of course technicality is necessary). A high standard of humanity is required to be great people, leaders, role models in the world and in law. Our staff, clients, colleagues, counterparts, families, friends are depending on us to show up as our best selves in practice to serve them with excellence. . Lawyer's aren't literally killing people at work through dehumanisation, however, lawyers may be dehumanising others and not even know they are doing it! This vlog provides 3 vital skills to ensure you get on the ramp or road to role model greatness as they will begin the path for greater humanity in law. We are all humans with responsibilities and accountability to other humans and therefore can't act like the 3 Police officers who stood … [Read more...]
Daily Strategies To Increase Motivation and Performance – Starting Today!
Some people are really motivated to enter life post COVID 19 and re-engage with what they love doing, living their best life. Others are more reticent and lack motivation, wanting to stay under the doona a little longer. There may have been many changes during lockdown, out of your control, that has created stress, fatigue and overwhelm for you. What is lack of motivation? How can we identify it? There are things you can control. I provide 2 healthy strategies to increase your motivation and daily performance so you live your life to your full potential, thriving as you achieve your goals. Feel free to contact me at louise.mathias@sydneybarrister.net.au to discuss my mediation practices, costs and availability If you would like to discuss whether high performance coaching is right for you, or whether we are the right fit, or are you ready for high performance coaching, as its not for everyone, please contact me to apply and we can organise a free 1 hour strategy session … [Read more...]
A High Performing Lawyer: Do They Need More Than Technical Skills?
My friend Lara Wentworth, Lawyer and NLP Master Practitioner, and I had a warm, friendly brief chat about some of the hallmarks of a high performing lawyer, one that succeeds, is happy and shows up as their best self as they serve others. Join the conversation with Lara and I! #barrister #mediator #FDRP #arbitrator #online #highperformance #leadership #harvard #up-skill #eqcoach … [Read more...]
Leadership – How To Have Effective Difficult Conversations.
We engage in difficult conversations daily when there are heightened emotions and differing views - at negotiation, mediation, court, in the office, at home. Do we avoid or embrace the initial discomfort of difficult conversations? Leaders need to be comfortable and skilled at difficult conversations. I provide recommendations for communicating as leaders for current and future success and impact. We can accomplish more together than alone! My contribution at this financially challenging time for many - 50% of my usual day mediation rate to help family lawyers and clients. Contact me at louise.mathias@sydneybarrister.net.au or (02) 9336 5399. #barrister #advancedtrainedmediator #FDRP #arbitrator #medicalnegligence #familylaw #institutionalabuse #leadership #harvard #highperformance #online … [Read more...]