Great leaders are great negotiators and effective negotiation is essential at mediation. When attending mediation, everyone has their own style, intention and methods about how they show up and how to resolve conflict/disputes. Its the same for Mediators. With the wide variety in styles, intentions, conventions, how do you know what are the best negotiation and mediation practices? Harvard Law School, Program on Negotiation, is a widely recognized preeminent leader in the field of negotiation, negotiation research, and dispute resolution, which provides tried and tested best practices for negotiation and mediation. I had the honour to attend Harvard "Negotiation, Leadership and How To Handle Difficult Conversations" and I want to share some of their best practices with you. Why not pick one and use in the next week and see the positive differences for yourself, your clients, your relationships with others at mediation and outcomes!! Watch the video … [Read more...]
Essential Conflict Resolution, Leadership & Life Skill: INFLUENCE
When was the last time you spoke to your 6 year old asking them to brush their teeth before bed, go back to bed, hurry up and get ready for school, without success? Think about a time you spoke with your spouse/partner/friend/family and you wanted them to agree with you on a topic, without success? Think about the last time you attended a mediation, when you spoke (or observed others speak) at the opening, when the other side was informed of the strength of your case, their case was diminished [and they need a better handle on the law]. You may have been surprised they didn't 'come to their senses'. :-) Getting others to agree with you , having satisfying relationships, asking others to comply when we ask for help or when trying to alter others behaviour or thinking, sell our services or ideas or be an effective leader.... ALL require high levels of influence. Many people think influence involves force . It is, however, a skill, it takes time, effort and intention to … [Read more...]
NEW BEGINNINGS…!
Firstly, I want to say thank you and honour those of you who have remained with me, accepting my blogs/ vlogs into your inboxes when I know you already have to manage 100's of emails every day and this is another one! I know it takes time to read or listen to my blogs/vlogs, and not everyone values the importance of personal development or practicing with human skills and legality (differently), the subject of my blogs/vlogs, showing how human skills will improve lives and practices. I applaud you! Many are afraid of change and as a result they don't live their lives with courage, or they would like to be more influential and don't know how, as a result they don't live life to its full potential, never really growing and learning and developing new skills and habits! Thank you for being open to learn and grow! My aim has always been to make a difference in law, and to lawyers. Money has never been my motivation. I have always been non conformist and in law, I am no … [Read more...]
What Is & How Does High Performance Coaching Change Lives?
Many people work hard, are exhausted and stressed and can't reach their next level of success, despite their arduous efforts. Many are overwhelmed, without future vision/ dreams they are working towards and living life in fear and despair today and into the future. High performance habits need to be learned and implemented to live your life to its full potential with clear direction, purpose, heightened joy, greater productivity, influence, less stress and more success. Watch the video for full training Louise is an advanced trained mediator, who used high performance & EQ skills, Harvard knowledge in addition to mediation skills in her mediation practices. Contact her if you would like her to make a positive difference to your clients case in family law mediations. Contact Louise is you wish to apply for your free 1 hour high performance strategy session where you will experience 1:1 coaching with Louise, learn skills and tips in the process @holisticbarrister … [Read more...]
I’m Smart….. Do I Need More Influence To Be More Successful?
It's been said the 5 keys to success are determination, passion, skill, discipline and good fortune. Definitely necessary, however, is that all you need to be successful ? An effective leader will use strategic influence designed to change another person or teams attitudes, beliefs or actions, to inspire them to do better. A mother or father will want effective influencing skills when interacting with their 4 year old. Their strategic influence will be different when trying to influence their teenager. Conflict resolution, whether at mediation or advocating in court, requires high influencing skills, its based on people skills and strategy. Every day, we are influencing family, friends, colleagues, clients, counterparts anyone who crosses our path. Louise provides some thought provoking ideas and questions to help you to think differently about influence! Watch the the video for full training. 1. If you would like to engage Louise as a mediator (family law), who has … [Read more...]
How To Unlock YOUR Success
COVID 19 hit and continues to impact many people and businesses, with new outbreaks, causing anxiety and uncertainty. Its hard for many to think about moving forward successfully, with firms concerned about their future profitability and people worried about job security. Lawyers and firms may have been pushed off their usual course in the 'new' difficult circumstances. How do you approach "new"? You need to be applauded for your flexibility and adaptability during these times of change. How is the 'new' impacting on you reaching your goals? What will help you unlock your success (whatever that means to you) and your business' success to get you back on the road to success, driving / working towards your goals (clear goals are necessary) particularly in challenging circumstances. Louise provides strategies for you to unlock your success, so you reach YOUR goals, with daily momentum, when challenges are high. Louise is a holistic barrister, an advanced trained mediator, … [Read more...]
Be The Leader YOU Want To Follow!
Are you new to the profession and at the perceived bottom of the hierarchy ladder, feeling voiceless, powerless? Do you trust your leaders? Do you feel safe at work every day? Do you feel protected and allowed to be yourself? Is it possible for you to be a leader? Do you hold a position of seniority, you have made your way up the hierarchical ladder in the profession, and believe you are automatically a 'leader"? Whats the difference between leadership, position/authority? Louise is inspired by Simon Sinek (Leadership Expert) and Brendon Burchard (High Performance Institute) on what makes a leader? Who can be a leader? Are you a leader or a person with position and authority? #holisticbarrister, mediator #FDRP #arbitrator #highperformancecoach (CHPC) #highperformanceconsultant (CHPC) #eqcoach #eqconsultant #leadership #Harvard #makeadifference. … [Read more...]
Lawyers Are Taught To Dehumanise! Lets Be Exemplary Human Role Models
Summary: Summary: Lawyers are taught to dehumanise from law school, where emotions and human skills are devalued and dismissed, thought of as unnecessary in practice and technicality seen as the only skill required for greatness (of course technicality is necessary). A high standard of humanity is required to be great people, leaders, role models in the world and in law. Our staff, clients, colleagues, counterparts, families, friends are depending on us to show up as our best selves in practice to serve them with excellence. . Lawyer's aren't literally killing people at work through dehumanisation, however, lawyers may be dehumanising others and not even know they are doing it! This vlog provides 3 vital skills to ensure you get on the ramp or road to role model greatness as they will begin the path for greater humanity in law. We are all humans with responsibilities and accountability to other humans and therefore can't act like the 3 Police officers who stood … [Read more...]
Daily Strategies To Increase Motivation and Performance – Starting Today!
Some people are really motivated to enter life post COVID 19 and re-engage with what they love doing, living their best life. Others are more reticent and lack motivation, wanting to stay under the doona a little longer. There may have been many changes during lockdown, out of your control, that has created stress, fatigue and overwhelm for you. What is lack of motivation? How can we identify it? There are things you can control. I provide 2 healthy strategies to increase your motivation and daily performance so you live your life to your full potential, thriving as you achieve your goals. Feel free to contact me at louise.mathias@sydneybarrister.net.au to discuss my mediation practices, costs and availability If you would like to discuss whether high performance coaching is right for you, or whether we are the right fit, or are you ready for high performance coaching, as its not for everyone, please contact me to apply and we can organise a free 1 hour strategy session … [Read more...]
A High Performing Lawyer: Do They Need More Than Technical Skills?
My friend Lara Wentworth, Lawyer and NLP Master Practitioner, and I had a warm, friendly brief chat about some of the hallmarks of a high performing lawyer, one that succeeds, is happy and shows up as their best self as they serve others. Join the conversation with Lara and I! #barrister #mediator #FDRP #arbitrator #online #highperformance #leadership #harvard #up-skill #eqcoach … [Read more...]